Passing By on the Other Side
We had a customer at work today who had a rough day. Without going into detail, let's just say that I was impressed by how unpleasant the last few hours had been for her, and that takes some doing. She left the office just before I went off duty, and I was aware that she was having some challenges getting a ride home.
As I was driving home, I passed her. She was standing on the side of the street, thumb out, hitchhiking. It occurs to me as I type this that, given the neighborhood and the time of day, mine was likely the only car she'd see that hour.
I didn't stop.
There are a lot of good reasons for my not stopping. This person was not necessarily stable or sane. I have no idea whether or not she was carrying a weapon. I'm shy; dealing with people outside my comfort zone is a big step for me. The Wife (tm) has made me promise not to pick up hitch hikers (we had just talked about this not 2 days previously--not sure how it came up). Given what I do for a living, picking up people I meet at work is a very dangerous habit. I had a lot of stuff in my car and it would have taken some major reconfiguring to clear a seat for her.
It all feels like bullshit.
The significant outcome is that I left her on the side of the road. Just to be clear, I didn't owe her anything. I don't know this person, I don't operate a ride-home service, I do know that she was given contact information for resources appropriate to her situation. It still feels wrong.
I'm enough of a Neanderthal to feel more strongly about this because she's a woman. I'm self-aware enough to realize that. If it had been a guy, I don't think I'd've had a second thought about driving by.
I don't know.